What are people who are “socially afraid” of?

  Are you “socially afraid”? “Social anxiety disorder”, also known as social anxiety disorder, is a psychological disorder that affects normal work and life due to excessive fear of the social environment and negative evaluations of others.
  Nowadays, more and more young people jokingly call themselves “social fear”. Among them, some people do have unnecessary tension and embarrassment in normal social interaction. This social anxiety may not reach the severity of psychological disorders, but it does affect their normal social life. To get rid of this psychological discomfort, to have normal and peaceful communication with others, and to relieve “fear” is an indispensable part.
  We first need to figure out why we are afraid of socializing. “Social phobia” people often have two wrong perceptions of the external environment and others:
  First, they always fall into a self-focused way of thinking, often placing themselves in the center of the social arena, and feel that their every move will Be noticed by those around you. Therefore, they always live in a tension of being watched.
  Second, they are always imagining what others think of them, and they are always living in negative self-hypnosis. Anxiety is actually an imaginary game we play with ourselves—imagining all the bad possibilities, all the bad consequences that could arise from it, and the “bad consequences that could happen, and more likely won’t happen.” And cause their own inner fear, worry and stress. This kind of imagination makes them think about their words and actions all the time, recall any possible flaws, and feel the strange look of people around them.
  Why do we know that this is all our imagination, yet we believe it and worry about it? This is because the human subconscious has a unique situational confusion mechanism that allows us to believe our own imaginations, so that we can formulate a feasible disaster backup plan to ensure the safety of the individual and the continuation of the race. This is one of the subconscious instinctive self-protection mechanisms.
  You can simply understand that the subconscious cannot distinguish between imagination and reality. Therefore, whether it is what happens in reality or what happens in imagination, it will bring us a highly consistent emotional and emotional experience. That’s why, in the middle of the night, when you’re tossing and turning, you’re panicking or bursting into tears because of what you’re imagining.
  My visitor, Mr. K, is a training instructor who stands on the podium and teaches students every day. Ever since he once made a mistake on the podium, causing students to burst into laughter, he has been anxious about lecturing. Every night he prepares the speech again and again, telling himself, “Don’t make mistakes in the lecture tomorrow, don’t make mistakes,” but he couldn’t help imagining how he made mistakes over and over again. These imaginations made him extremely anxious, and even appeared repeatedly in his dreams, causing him to wake up again and again. Gradually, Mr. K felt that he was afraid of the podium and did not dare to walk on the podium.
  I asked Mr. K: “What is your most common anxiety fantasy?”
  Mr. K said: “I often can’t help imagining that I made a mistake in my lectures, standing on the podium with red ears, embarrassment, shame, and provoking the students. There was a lot of laughter, and even some students took the lead to shoot me off. When I thought of this, I said to myself, you can’t make mistakes again, and if you make mistakes again, your career will be over. But it seems that the more you think about it, the more anxious you are and the more afraid of making mistakes. The more things go wrong, and this makes me more anxious.”
  At this point, do you see the crux of the problem? Yes, the key is that “the more you think like this, the more anxious you are, and the more you are afraid of making mistakes, the more you will make mistakes.” Because what we imagine in our subconscious is a failure scenario, and when the subconscious recognizes it as real, it will produce a corresponding mental state and behavior. That is to say, if you keep imagining failure over and over again, the subconscious mind will think that these failure scenarios are real and should happen, so it will show you the feeling of failure and the behavior that makes you finally achieve failure.
  How can this state be changed? It’s very simple, just change the content of your imagination – before, you always imagined the scenes that you didn’t want to happen, but now you reverse it and do “positive self-suggestion” to actively imagine the scenes you want to happen. The more real the imagination, the better. The more immersive it is, the better the effect. Whenever a negative image pops up involuntarily, replace it with a positive image.
  It is recommended that you make “positive self-suggestion” a lifelong mental health habit that will make your life more optimistic and happier.
  I wish you to get rid of “social fear” as soon as possible, and welcome each day naturally and positively.