The Art of Being Interesting: How to Captivate Others with Your Words

  On many occasions, we are attracted to interesting people. After long-term observation, I found that the reason why interesting people are interesting is that they are interesting and special from the first sentence they say. When they “catch” others with their first words, they can firmly attract their attention, and then they will let people discover more attractive aspects of themselves.
  Once, I attended a friend’s birthday party. There was a woman who stood out so much that the men and women surrounding her burst into hearty laughter from time to time.
  Someone asked her if she was single now. She said: “For a person like me who is full of all kinds of shortcomings, I have to find a husband without shortcomings to balance my life.” People around her,
  especially It was the ladies who laughed and said she was “daydreaming.” (Isn’t this a typical case of “thinking beautiful”?)
  She went on to say: “I hope he is young, rich, generous and chic enough, very considerate and courageous.”
  So some of the men around her shook their heads. Shake his head.
  She paused for a moment and said, “So, friends, I’m single now!”
  Everyone started laughing good-naturedly. (This is in line with everyone’s views on this society. Moreover, seeing her cheerful expression, everyone suddenly felt that what she just said was so straightforward. Who is not looking forward to meeting a perfect partner?)
  Everyone After releasing all the misunderstandings about her “high self-esteem”, someone then chatted with her and asked her what she did in her daily life. She continued: “So, I can now devote all my energy to my company’s products. After all, a perfect product can listen to me obediently and will not ask me to cook, wash, or give birth to children.”
  At this point, many people present laughed heartily and began to ask to know and understand each other with her. further cooperation.
  After the party, this lady turned out to be the big winner. Almost everyone wanted to meet her and chat with her.
  Judging from her chatting skills, she is a person with high emotional intelligence. She makes seemingly ordinary things have more aftertaste and interest. She introduces herself candidly without letting her information be too obvious. In her banter and jokes, she mobilizes and uses other people’s emotions, allowing everyone to get to know her starting from daily topics. After others are sufficiently interested in her, she then introduces her profession. When introducing her profession, she can also echo the topics mentioned above without being blunt on this blunt topic, making people feel that the information is coherent and deep impression. She’s so comfortable that others think she’s always chatting, but in reality, she’s successfully launched her own personal brand.
  If we want to chat with more interesting friends in our lives, we can first try to add some interest in life to some ordinary questions and answers between ourselves and others, so that our emotions, answers, and even our whole person can be more… Presented interestingly.
  This is true in life, and even more so in work.
  People who are good at chatting are good at creating the extraordinary in the ordinary, so an ordinary employee can quickly arouse the emotions of his boss. Even if you meet your boss in the elevator, maybe for only a minute, he will say: “I watched the news last night and found an economist whose views are exactly the same as yours.” This sentence is enough to mobilize the other person’s attention. Out of curiosity, the leader will most likely ask: “Which sentence is it?” Then the employees can get more opportunities to chat with the leader.
  Some sales staff will say when chatting with others: “I will only take up one minute of your time.” Under normal circumstances, people will not reject his request. So, he took one minute to ambush enough events to attract customers’ attention, and tried to visit him next time so that he could better explain the details to customers.
  Even when giving a work report, if the leader does not have enough time, you can only give a brief presentation. Remember that the key points of your presentation must not be exhaustive. Just like chatting in our lives, it cannot be summarized in a short time. Cover all the information in a few sentences. The focus of what it presents and introduces must be interesting, rich, and something that can arouse the curiosity of the other party.
  It is often seen that some young children are particularly “honest” and do things exactly according to the rules put forward by others without knowing how to adapt. For example, a young colleague once asked me to give him three minutes to give a brief report on project planning. I regret not telling him, but thirty minutes is fine!
  Because in the following process, I was surprised to find that I listened to the other party say a tongue twister within three minutes. I basically had no impression of the main points he said, but he spoke so fast that I always wanted to remind him not to forget to breathe. What’s even more regrettable is that in less than two minutes, he said everything he wanted to say.
  It can be seen that expressive ability requires learning and effective training.
  I believe that no one with high emotional intelligence and good speaking skills would dare to say that they have no problems in chatting and expressing themselves. Taking myself as an example, I have been consciously learning the skills of chatting and speaking since I was in college. It is still an important part of my work, but I still often worry that I cannot speak well.
  It’s not a problem that we speak boringly, that others don’t understand, or that we speak too fast. The real problem is often that we mistakenly think that we speak very well. Therefore, when I talk about things with others, no matter how good I think I am at the conversation, I am used to throwing the topic to another person on the scene to supplement it after I finish talking, so as to avoid letting myself be the end of the topic. Or, it makes everyone embarrassed.