Ten myths that easily lead to authority harassment

  In June 2020, Japan officially promulgated the “Power Harassment Prevention Act”. Authority harassment actually includes many things. The current mainstream view is to attribute harassment of authority to six aspects, including “physical attack”, “mental attack”, “exclusion”, “excessive demands”, “excessive demands” and “invasion of private spheres”. There are also more and more instances of “reverse authority harassment” by subordinates against their superiors.
  So, what words and behaviors are likely to cause trouble to others and infringe on authority? Please try to reflect on your past behavior, learn to think about others, and build interpersonal relationships that understand and tolerate each other.
  The first type:
  Many bosses hope that their subordinates can think independently and complete their work independently. They always think in their hearts, “Work is something you need to learn while watching, and you don’t need to teach it by hand”.
  However, such guidelines can easily lead to various misunderstandings between the boss and the subordinate.
  Faced with this kind of boss who always says, “You can just watch it first” and “Learn while you do it”, many employees will feel that “the boss doesn’t teach me anything, which makes me feel at a loss”, and then complain to the company that they are Didn’t get any guidance. This “I don’t have to say anything, he’ll figure it out himself” can easily become a source of disputes. When coaching employees, it’s better for bosses to break down the business into many small steps and guide them bit by bit.
  The second type
  of “double binding” refers to binding someone else with two contradictory commands at the same time.
  Many bosses will say to their subordinates, “Ask me about anything”, but when the subordinates really come to ask them, they will use “I’m busy now, wait for the next time” to drive them away. Similarly, many parents also use this kind of “double binding” with their children, such as “you need to be independent, but you can’t leave your parents”, “you can do what you like, but you must be a successful person” “you Gotta get married, but not with this person”, etc.
  Controlling the other’s mind through such capricious demands is actually a form of bullying. When instructing subordinates and educating children, everyone must be careful to avoid this “double binding” behavior.
  The third
  ”how” is a very dangerous question word, which often gives the impression of “blaming”.
  Even if a person knows very well in his heart, it is easy to do wrong for many reasons beyond his control. When others used the word “how” to question him, he didn’t know how to answer.
  ”Why didn’t you do this?” “How did this happen?” This type of confirmation of the facts is often referred to as an “investigative inquiry.” Many people who like to grasp the facts first and then solve the problem will adopt this method. But such a question can easily be understood as a kind of “responsibility”, “threat” and “rebuke”. It is of course very necessary to find the cause of the mistake, but before doing so, we should first ask the other party’s thoughts and feelings.
  Fourth When
  seeing the words “stupid”, “idiot” and “sluggish”, you may think: “Does anyone still say that in this day and age?” In fact, there are such people.
  In an organization, the status of people is often determined according to different positions and seniority. When the upper and lower relationship of this position is very clear, if the person in the upper position attacks and controls the person in the lower position, it will cause authority harassment. One of the most serious forms of harassment is to use offensive words such as “idiot”, “idiot” and “sluggish” to scold each other. Some people even choose to commit suicide because they can’t stand abuse from their bosses. Such tragedies have happened in many companies. Some people think that such scolding is also a form of guidance. Such people can easily become the perpetrators of authority harassment. Please pay more attention.
  Talking about someone’s gender, age and appearance is considered rude, especially in the workplace. Nowadays, whether it is to praise others and say, “Young is good”, “It’s good to be a girl”, or criticize others and say, “Why did you cut your hair?” would be considered sexist.
  Sayings like “you’re a woman” and “you’re a big man” must be avoided. This stereotype of gender can easily become a breeding ground for prejudice and discrimination.
  In the workplace, you must try to avoid talking about the other person’s gender, age and appearance.
  There are many types
  of sexual harassment, including asking sexually related questions, making indecent jokes, telling the other person about their sexual experiences, forcibly touching the other person’s body, forcing the other person to have sex, and so on. Deliberately spreading rumours with sexual connotations is also included. In the workplace, provocative titles such as “little brother/girl” and “beautiful/handsome guy” are also best not to be used.
  There are also many people who have come to consult me ​​and put a “small” in front of other people’s names, whether this way of addressing them is considered harassment. I don’t think it’s a big problem if it’s a habit in an organization where everyone calls each other that. If it is used only against a specific group of people, it is likely to be considered sexual harassment.
  The seventh type
  Recently , more and more people will use the words “Can’t find someone else?” to refrain from work. Many people may think that, anyway, everyone’s salary is the same, and if they can work a little less, they will work a little less.
  Others feel that a certain job is not important, or that they are not very good at it, so they ask each other: “Why do you want me to do it?” “Can you find someone else for this job?” In the workplace, such a willful approach is obviously inappropriate.
  In order not to let your colleagues stay away from you, it is better to say less like this.
  In the process of communication, people tend to express their emotions first. For example, when others come to ask them to do things, many people will immediately refuse to say “I don’t want to” “I don’t want to do it”. Such an answer is very inappropriate.
  At work, we can’t always pick and choose according to our likes and dislikes. I also recently came across an example of workplace bullying. Since the boss has no knowledge of Internet technology, even though his subordinates know a lot about this aspect, he shirks that he doesn’t want to do it, and deliberately makes trouble for the boss. At work, please do not mix too many personal emotions.
  If it is really impossible, there is no need to bite the bullet. But if you just feel troublesome and don’t want to do it, it’s better to learn to be patient.
  The ninth type
  Many people who are not good at dealing with interpersonal relationships have a common feature, that is, they always like to use some offensive tone or catchphrase. Among them, those who always talk around corners and stop talking are a typical example. In many cases, such expectations are indirect expressions of dissatisfaction to the other party.
  ”It would be better if you could explain it more clearly…” (requesting), “If you could tell me earlier it wouldn’t be like this…” (shirking responsibility), “It will definitely fail anyway…” (expressing contempt), “It’s almost time to end…”
  (pressing the other person), “Though that person has a good personality…” (speaking ill of others), these statements are very typical.
  People who always like to stop talking and say only half of what they say must pay more attention and get rid of this habit.
  The tenth type:
  Many people like to immediately follow up with a “but”, “but”, “but” and “however” when others have finished speaking. These words are usually followed by some negative words, such as “but we don’t have time”, “but we can’t do it”, “but we can’t do it”, “but we didn’t know”. When the other party is denied in this way, they will only feel depressed.
  Some people like to talk about such negative words even if they don’t have any specific objections. Everyone must pay attention to using these words less in peacetime, so as to become a more popular person.