How “Beautiful Inflation” Skews Expectations on Dating Websites and Causes Disappointment in Real Life

  When we come to a dating website, we look around and see that there are all handsome men and beautiful women. They not only have charming appearance, but also have received a good education, rich income and a wide range of hobbies. This all looks great, but you might come to a different conclusion about it all if you consider something called “beautiful inflation.”
  Marina Edsheed of the University of British Columbia’s Vancouver School of Economics mentioned in her book “The Love Market” that when users on dating websites were asked how they rated their appearance, only 1% Answering that their appearance is “below average”, only 29% of men and 26% of women think that their appearance is “similar to that of passers-by walking on the street”, and 68% of men and 72% of women think that they are attractive. Above average.
  Behavioral economists have found that cognitive biases like this abound. For example, most people think they are smarter than the average person. A survey of 1 million high school seniors conducted by Broad College in the United States from 1976 to 1977 showed that 70% of students believed that they were above average in terms of leadership, and only 2% believed that they were below average. When it comes to getting along with others, 60% of students think they are among the top 10% of their peers, and 25% think they are among the top 1%. The findings were published in the college’s yearbook.
  When making initial self-evaluations on dating websites, we exaggerate the distribution of our appearance level. Among those who rate themselves the same as you, others look significantly more beautiful and attractive. But it doesn’t matter. They may also be average-looking. Everyone can find a photo that is taken very well. It can cleverly cover up your weaknesses and highlight your most attractive angles. If you really can’t find it, don’t be discouraged. Don’t we still have powerful photo editing software?
  Now that you have beautiful photos, you need to write an introduction. Words are elastic. You didn’t lie, but the same thing can be described with different effects using words. So, below that charming photo, there is your attractive personal introduction.
  At this time, you look as attractive as others, but you also know that this charm is exaggerated, but others have done the same thing as you. As a result, dating websites have created “beauty inflation”, which drives everyone’s perception of their own value to shift to the distribution area of ​​overestimated beautiful people. Moreover, it is not only beauty that is inflated, but also people’s self-introduction. The same goes for inflation.
  So what are the consequences of “beautiful inflation”?
  When our interactions with each other come from the Internet to reality, or send more photos and videos to each other, because based on the information obtained from the Internet, you have higher expectations for him or her. When you see the real person You will feel disappointed (die in the light), and you may even underestimate the other person’s appearance (even though he is average-looking, you will think he is very ugly).
  Psychologists call this phenomenon the “contrast effect.” This effect means that when the first impression is overestimated, the actual subsequent impression will be underestimated. This is because people compare the two impressions before and after. Research in this field shows that when an impression is made of a highly attractive person online, even if the real person is actually average, they will be considered to be much lower than they actually are. level.
  ”Beautiful inflation” not only makes the online dating market opaque, but also causes problems for men and women dating in real life. If you are disappointed after seeing the person in person, you should think about whether you yourself have joined this inflationary party.

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