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Five signs of Suicidal socializing

Here’s a question from the Internet:

“What lessons did you learn as an adult?”

A high praise replied, “Direction is more important than hard work, eq is more important than IQ.”

Emotionally intelligent people make people want to be close to them.

People with low EQ, on the other hand, use “suicidal socializing” to make people feel awkward and push everyone away, intentionally or not.

One of these five types of “suicidal socializing” leads to endless embarrassment.

At one point or another in our lives, we’ve all come across people who love to make jokes, but it’s hard to say anything.

In the popular TV series Our Marriage, there is a memorable episode.

At Li Yuwen’s birthday dinner party, one of his college classmates has been teasing him about marrying a good wife who can make money.

Not only did he not have to support his wife, he was supported by her, lived in a luxurious neighborhood, drove a fancy car, and lived an unattainable life.

Present students, all hee hee ha ha ground to echo.

The classmate’s joke, let him very embarrassed, he can only one side forced a smile, while pretending to eat.

In fact, he also has his own pursuit, but in order to support his wife’s career, chose to stay at home with the children.

Writer Zhang Haochen said:

“When someone makes a joke and you feel uncomfortable, it’s not a joke at all, it’s a joke.”

In the eyes of others, but is a harmless joke, but in the hearts of others, but under a heavy snow.

Real humor is based on respect and mutual comfort.

Not, in the guise of humor, sarcasm, poking holes, rubbing salt in the scars.

Using sarcasm as a sense of humor is just a stab in the dark and a way to end a relationship.

For the rest of your life, don’t make jokes when you are with someone. Only when you keep comfortable with each other can you make a long-term relationship.

In our lives, we can’t help but hear these words:

“I speak my mind and will not beat around the bush. Don’t take it to heart if you say something unpleasant…”

“I’m too honest to tell the truth, so I’ll tell the truth…”

And they are followed by words, often make the other side difficult to accept.

In fact, they are not really outspoken, but have no one else in mind.

Writer Lee Sang-long once had such a friend.

Li Shanglong is busy with his work and does not pay much attention to dressing.

This friend often told his other friends that his clothes were ugly and torn.

On one occasion, Li Shanglong sent a script he had written for three days and nights to his friends.

Unexpectedly, his friend put his play down to nothing, so that his mood fell to the bottom.

Although, this friend is very kind, each time finished speaking, would apologize for her “forthright”.

But Li Shanglong could not stand her too straightforward, and cut ties with it.

“Wounds of speech are all hidden wounds.”

Open mouth is not straight, but a weapon to hurt others.

Most of the time, it’s not that others can’t hear the truth, and it’s not that what you say is malicious.

But, no matter how good a friend is, you can’t afford to say hurtful things regardless of the occasion.

Your straightforwardness seems to be for the good of others, but in fact, you are happy to build on the pain of others.

When talking with others, you should learn to express your views tactfully and consider others’ feelings more.

Only in this way, will not let each other into embarrassing situation, can have good popularity.

I don’t know if you have this experience:

Before you get married in your 30s, some people advise you to get married early or you’ll miss the prime marriage age.

Just after a hard day’s work, you want to have a good rest, and there is a “good Samaritan” to remind you that once you rest, you will be out.

You wait in line for hours to buy something you like, and then someone says you wasted your time buying it.

Whenever someone does something out of their range of recognition, they will stand up and point fingers.

They think they are doing it for the good of others.

They ignore that this kind of concern crosses boundaries, not only offends people, but also drives relationships apart.

Marquez said:

“Much of human suffering is unspeakable, and the actions of many helpless.”

Walking in the world, everyone has his own way of life, you have no way of knowing the fate of others until you have walked in other people’s shoes and paths.

You can not understand other people’s lives, but you can not judge; You can disapprove of other people’s choices, but you can’t interfere.

Rather, too much interference in other people’s lives, and people hate.

Instead, start to swallow your enthusiasm, leave some space for the other person, and give yourself some way out.

When you learn to respect other people’s lives, they will respect you.

Walking in the world, we always meet and deal with different kinds of people.

But there are some people you’ve just met, and they’re just as warm to you as if you’ve known each other forever.

When I communicate with you, I always ask you some questions beyond the boundaries, which makes you feel offended.

This kind of person who comes to know each other immediately, can get to know each other quickly, and even feel very friendly.

In fact, this kind of familiarity is not affinity, but a lost sense of communication mode.

A person with affinity is discreet.

They always let one’s guard down and relax, and there is a pleasant feeling of being there for a long time.

Liang Shiqiu once said:

“When you make friends, you should respect them for a long time. Respect is to keep distance and avoid intimacy.

Friendship cannot be overdrawn, it must be kept.”

And very happy friends, but also to be familiar with the rules.

What’s more, you should keep your distance from friends you just met.

Those who just meet people too warm, is a kind of disturbance.

When you first get to know people, only with a little enthusiasm can you have the opportunity to get in touch with them and develop your feelings further.

Someone on the Internet asked:

“What kind of people are you most tired with?”

One replied, “All the time, just to look superior.”

If you think about it, it is.

You and he reason, he must and you play emotional card; When you say the earth is round, he insists that it is flat.

No matter what you’re talking about, he always shuts you down.

When dealing with naysayers, you often feel helpless.

What’s striking is that they don’t feel like they’re being sarcastic, they feel like they’re being articulate and complacent.

As everyone knows, the bar won, lost feelings, bar lost, lost face.

No matter how good the feeling is, it is worth the deliberate backbiting again and again.

Tsai says:

“The people who know how to talk the best are the ones who often concede victory to each other in a conversation. They know what it means to lose.”

A man with a real gift of gab will never hold back in order to be quick with his tongue.

Never tangle with a naysayer because he will always put you in a difficult position.

Life is short and life is expensive. Stay away from those who criticize you.

How comfortable you are determines how far you can go.

Avoid these five “suicide socials.” When you’re decent and comfortable, people will naturally want to socialize with you.

The more sociable you are, the happier others will be, and the happier they will be, the more they will like you; The more people like you, the more help you get, the happier you will be.

It is not easy to meet each other.

I hope you and I can think more about each other before speaking, do not make fun of friends, do not interfere in each other’s life, control the degree of communication, let the relationship long.

May we all become high eq social people, make friends with warm and comfortable people, more and more popular, more and more broad road.

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