Life is a lonely journey. The experiences people experience in life are unique and personalized. Everyone has their own thoughts, feelings and emotions, which cannot be fully shared or understood.
When facing many life events such as life and death, love and separation, giving and loss, everyone can only bear and deal with it alone.
Loneliness is a common characteristic of human beings. It will evolve differently with age groups. In different age groups, people experience different life events and psychological needs. Because of this, loneliness has different characteristics. form.
In childhood, most of the loneliness children feel comes from the lack of interpersonal relationships. When they have not fully integrated into class or social circles, they will feel isolated and helpless.
In addition, children often have different ideas about the world around them than adults. This psychological uniqueness will also bring a certain degree of loneliness.
With the arrival of adolescence, young people’s loneliness gradually turns into emotional loneliness. During this stage, they face huge physical and emotional changes and begin to explore issues such as self, identity and value.
It is therefore easier to feel lonely and helpless, and at the same time, establishing and maintaining friendships and romantic relationships also brings challenges in terms of self-identity and satisfaction.
Increased life pressure in adulthood and conflicts between work and family will lead to emotional loneliness in middle-aged people. During this period, the need for physical and mental health and intimate relationships becomes more urgent.
But increased work pressure and household chores can make people feel distant from others. At the same time, when their children grow up and have their own social circles, parents’ loneliness will become more serious.
When we lose contact with others at a certain stage of life, or find that we cannot communicate or have nothing to say with some old classmates and colleagues, this situation will trigger people’s thinking about loneliness.
Loneliness is not blank, it is the grandeur of thoughts. In lonely moments, our thoughts enter the inner world, which is like a vast sky, waiting for us to explore and fill it.
Loneliness gives us time and space to listen to our inner voice and think about all aspects of life. Under the busy social and work pressure, we often ignore the dialogue with ourselves.
Lost in the hustle and bustle of the outside world, but when we calm down and spend some time alone, we will find that loneliness is actually an introspective journey, which allows us to understand ourselves better and recognize our ideal values.
Solitary reflection can stimulate creativity and imagination. When we stay away from external distractions and immerse ourselves in thinking, our minds become more flexible and agile.
At this time we can outline a blueprint for the future, find innovative ways to solve problems, or simply enjoy the freedom of imagination.
Many great works of art were born in loneliness, because loneliness can give people space to think and create independently.
Loneliness is still the only way to reduce your relationship. In the past, we were always troubled by various choices, such as who to have dinner with, which brand of product to buy, and choosing a travel destination. Almost every day is busy making decisions.
Psychology tells us that people are happiest when they have only two or three obviously different choices or when they have no choice at all. But when we face too many choices, a strong mentality of gain and loss will appear, which will give birth to insecurities. feeling of happiness.
Loneliness gives us an opportunity to stay away from the expectations of others and the pressure of society, and to rethink and examine our inner needs. When we are alone, there is no noise and disturbance from the outside world.
We can hear our inner voice more clearly and pay more attention to what we want. Such meditation and introspection can bring us closer to our true selves and help us find inner balance and satisfaction.
How to enjoy loneliness?
The first thing is to refuse useless social interactions. From a psychological and emotional perspective, useless socializing can have a negative impact on our health and well-being.
Communicating too frequently with others or dealing with those who have no value in communicating can increase stress and anxiety, thereby eroding our sense of self-worth and self-identity.
The second thing is to delete friends.
Friendships require constant contact and maintenance, but people’s energy is limited after all. We should leave precious resources to those who are worthy, rather than treating everyone equally.
The last thing is to find yourself. Some people often regret that they still have no friends when they are over fifty, and even think that such a life is a failure. But one day you will find that after the age of 50, you actually don’t need any friends at all, you can be your own friend.
When we treat ourselves as friends, we will pay more attention to our inner needs and feelings, be more willing to listen to our inner voices, and understand ourselves deeply. When facing challenges, difficulties or disappointments,
We can also cheer ourselves up and achieve personal growth. All in all, happiness is not difficult, the key lies in your choice.