The Case for Calm, Rational Love: Moving Beyond Fanatical Infatuation

Love doesn’t have to be all fervent; it can also be serene.

Serenity emanates from perceiving everything distinctly and unequivocally, devoid of illusions, pretense, and exaggeration. Serenity is also derived from a macroscopic contemplation of life, while love exists on a microscopic scale.

In many instances, when love manifests, individuals are zealous, irrational, and courting demise.

During the emergence of love, the lover’s sentiments are elevated and tumultuous; the image of the beloved is surrounded by a halo, magnified, while the mundane and trivial traits are intentionally or unintentionally concealed, leaving behind only beauty and poetry.

All novels and poems delineate this form of love. It is so theatrical that those who pen novels and poems cannot resist the strong allure, rendering love an enduring theme in literature and art.

In certain scenarios, love can also be composed, rational, and authentic.

This circumstance often arises in love that remains unrealized in reality, clandestine love, unrequited love, and platonic love.

A spatial distance exists between the lover and the beloved, enabling individuals to tranquilly observe.

Objects can authentically reveal their true hues, devoid of any aura or exaggeration.

Given the impossibility of an actual union between the two parties, there is no need to exhibit one’s favorable side to the other party. The truth can be conveyed, and individuals can feign independence without a special connection.

In this scenario, what endures is the genuine essence, the unadorned and undisguised convergence of souls.

Another source of dispassionate love is a macro perspective on life.

Each love, even the earth-shattering kind, only transpires between inconspicuous individuals.

From the standpoint of time and space, it is neither earth-shattering nor evoking ghosts and gods. It is merely a small undulation in the turbulent sea, a faint ripple on the expansive lake, and a wispy cloud in the sky spanning thousands of miles.

If people could view love in this manner, how could they not be composed?