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It’s OK to choose “Turtle Life”

  Recently, I saw a novel interpretation of the race between the tortoise and the hare. It comes from Ikki, the male protagonist of the Japanese drama “We Are Made of Miracles.” Yihui said that in this game, the tortoise may have forgotten the rabbit and the game, lying on the ground only saw the world of vegetation a few centimeters from the ground, enjoying the beauty of the wonderful world, and happily “walking around” to the end; The rabbit only wants to prove that he is great before running. This kind of behavior of “regardless of the goal, just win or lose”, will lose the real life sooner or later. In this way, the “tortoise and the hare race” has evolved into a discussion of “enjoying the process VS pursuing victory or defeat”. I like this interpretation very much.
  And Ikki in “We Are Made of Miracles” is like a “turtle”, which makes me look happy and envy. He is a teacher of animal behavior at the university. Life is always slow. He has no pursuit and ambition. He likes to observe creatures and think about strange questions such as “Why don’t turtles wake up rabbits”. The plot is very soothing, and each episode is his leisurely daily life: riding a bicycle to work in the morning, feeling the temperature of the wind; making various tools for observing animals between classes; going to the forest after class, using the well-made tools to talk to the birds and listen to the frogs Singing… This kind of slow plot is too healing for anxious urbanites.
  In one episode, Ikki found a man-made forest path blocking the squirrel’s path in the forest. He wanted to use a wooden board to build a small bridge for the squirrel between the trees on both sides of the road. How to build a bridge, how to optimize the structure of the bridge, such a simple plot, only used four episodes to reflect. Watching the bridge build up little by little, and finally when the squirrel bounced over in the sun, my heart softened. The actor’s gentle and patient attitude towards the world is too attractive, much more charming than the overbearing president in the idol drama.
  I was also impressed by another episode, which was about the work of “earth flavor”. A student of Yihui sells konjac at home. The student feels that this job is very “earth” and is ashamed to talk about it. But in Yihui’s eyes, there is no earth or earth in work, only knowledge. It takes a lot of processes to make konjac, and it is also affected by the temperature, humidity, and the pH of the water. This is a very difficult task. He said to the students, “Isn’t this process a miracle?” His parents don’t sell konjac, it’s his “face trouble”.
  You see, even for ordinary things, Ikki can find something to study and ponder. This makes everyone envious and confused: Why can he have such a happy life?
  Yihui used to be a “rabbit” struggling young man who liked to win. Later, he discovered that if there is only victory in his heart, his interest and enthusiasm will quickly be exhausted. Abandoning the desire to “win” can reduce the burden on the soul and be ordinary. Nourished by the beauty of the world.
  Many people in life are rabbits in their hearts, always eager for excellence in pursuit of victory, but no matter how hard they work, they can’t get rid of anxiety. In contrast, the tortoise walked slowly along the forest path that he liked, and saw the scenery as well as the miracles in nature. In the end, it’s hard to say who will reach the end first with the rabbit, but the tortoise must be happier during this process

  There was once a Korean drama “Don’t want to go to work”, which was a classic presentation of an office gossip gossip award: the female leader of Party A communicated in the office of the male leader of Party B. Due to their differences of opinion, they stayed for a long time. The idle employees in the office area began to gossip. The rumors continued to escalate and eventually turned into a scandal involving the female leader of Party A and a married man in the former company.
  Why are human beings always keen to spread gossip in the office? This has different explanations from the theoretical perspectives of sociology, ethics, psychology, and mass communication, but when unfortunately becoming the protagonist of the scandal, no one can calmly analyze the troubles and even pains they face.
  Imagine this: If you are rumored to have an improper relationship with a colleague, boss, or client, what would you do?
  The first thing most people think of is self-certification. But in many cases, the parties are almost unable to prove themselves. Peach rumors, unlike other rumors, may come to light over time. For example, the company is rumoring that A privately gave gifts and has been appointed as a new management post. When the position is later assumed by B, the rumors that “A’s relationship was promoted by default” will naturally be self-defeating.
  But peachy gossip cannot be clarified over time, and even if it can be clarified, the rumors and spreaders will not care. In the process of spreading other people’s rumors, what they seek is not the objective truth, but the excitement of prying into the privacy of others, as well as the group cohesion and sense of security resulting from the common “reveal of a secret”-they only believe in what they are willing to believe “fact”.
  So, if the rumors bother you, instead of trying to prove your innocence, it is better to find out the origin of the rumors. Counterattack is the most powerful clarification.
  I have a female friend who works very well, and once taught me a lesson on “front and counterattack”.
  She is beautiful, with strong professional ability, and her performance is often the company’s first. At its peak, she completed more than half of the company’s annual tasks alone. Such a good character is unavoidable from rumors. Some people say that she is involved in Party A’s marriage, and some people say that she won the project by nepotism… Once she went back to the company, she happened to hear a few people talking about her right and wrong. Her approach was straightforward. I walked over and said to the few people: I heard you say that I was involved in the marriage of Mr. X. Why didn’t I know this? Can anyone tell me something about it? A few observers falter. She told the colleague who was speaking: Your words have caused slander on me. Please be prepared to bear the legal consequences for your words and deeds. At the same time, she made representations to the company, and after some manipulation, the rumor spreader who was caught on the spot was resigned, and the other rumor spreaders also converged a lot.
  Domineering such as her, of course, has a strong heart and unshakeable performance, so that it can be so positive and tough, and ordinary workplace people may not be able to be like this.
  If you are a “rumor-prone physique” person, you should always pay attention to review your own words and deeds and maintain a reasonable scale of speech and behavior, such as not making excessively colored jokes, so as not to leave people with the stereotype of “private life at random”; for example; When in contact with colleagues of the opposite sex, pay attention to maintaining physical distance and avoid giving others a handle.
  Managing your daily image and using your usual words and deeds to influence people around you is also a fundamental way to reduce rumors. Because whether people believe rumors depends largely on their long-term perceptions of you.
  I know, this sounds a little bit “sweet” and unfair. After talking for a long time to counter the rumors, how come back to “cleanliness and self-care” in the end? This is because the person who most wants to eliminate rumors is not the other party, but ourselves.
  Qian Zhongshu said: When two people are together, they will spread rumors, just as if two branches are close together, a spider will hang a web. That being the case, we first set aside the necessary distance so that the spider can’t hang the web; if the web is still hung, then tear it off!

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